"It was "self-giving"."
How I did it: Well, during the process of getting over an ended relationship (of almost 5 yrs), I did ALOT of internal/emotional cleansing.
I mostly cried (which helps heaps), prayed, ALOT of journaling, and interestingly enough...some yoga too.
It was like craving out a pumpkin...putting a smiley face on it and then placing a lit candle inside...yea, kinda like that.
Lessons & tips:
- Embrace the hurt (think of a dark room where beautiful photos are developed)
- Know and TRUST that all things work out for the greater good, and you are not your story...BE the Author
- Be grateful for who you are and who you are destined to become
- Most importantly: CONTINUE to LOVE (its all around you, embrace it and share it----THEN RECIEVE IT!)
Resources:
- Self
- God
It took me 2 years.
It made me Abit More Confident 
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